Should I move on and forget about her or should I keep trying?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Hi I'm back once again with another problem check this out.
Last week I told her inthe hallway at school that we needed to talk.So she called me that Saturday moring at 11:30.I asked her I said Bri how do you really feel about me she took a deep breath and sighed and said J I don't have time for this but she let me tell her what I have to say.I told her that I missed her,I missed holding her,and that I missed us.I also told her that my feelings for her haven't changed, I still have strong feelings for her,and that I still love her.well, she said that I shouldn't be worrying about her and that I need to get me another girlfriend so I can tkae my mind off her.I can't help feeling the way I do about this girl.She should have thought about that before she was telling me that she loved me.When you tell someone that you love them your suppose to mean every letter and every word.And she used to kill me with that she would ask me to do something for her and if I loved her like I said I do then I would do it and I would do it.Then she told me that she doesn't know because she does have a boyfriend now and that she MIGHT go back with me she just doesn't know because she's still young(she's 15 and I'm 18). Then I asked her why did we break up she told me because we weren't going anywhere we were just a boy and a girl going together.She still wants to be friends with me but I don't know if I can do that.Ever since we have been broken up my grades have dropped I don't even care like I use to when I was with her.Every day I have to look at her and know she's with some one else and even though I try to hide it I'm hurting so bad on the inside.I don't know what to do anymore.Should I move on and forget about her or should I keep trying? I'm just scared that I will loose her forever and never get her back.I know that life goes on but I don't think I can.Maybe it will hit her when I'm gone. But when we finished talking she gave me her cell phone number and she would try to call me every now and then.PLEASE HELP ME OUT. WHAT SHOULD I DO LEAVE OR JUST KEEP TRYING.I WAS HOPING MAYBE YOU COULD LIKE EMAIL HER OR SOMETHING TO TRY TO GIVE HER THE SAME ADVICE YOU GUYS ARE GIVING ME.It would help alot.Sorry about the long explanation but you have to feel where I'm coming from.THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME.
Sorry we can't email a third party.
You have your choice whether to pursue her or drop her.
You have to decide for yourself. Nobody can make that choice for you.
Try to decide how much you love her. If it is a lot, then keep trying to get her back. Do this by communicating with her from time to time and ask her how she is doing and let her know that you still care for her. Don't do this too often or you'll drive her off. Maybe once a week would be ok. Be cheerful... nobody likes to talk with a depressed person. Don't dwell on your relationship and keep your conversation to 15 mins or so.
This will maintain the contact you need and give her the space she needs.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com