I can't swallow my pride and beg for him to come back again
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hi, me again. Thanks for all your advice. The saga continues -- last Fri. night at the bowling alley we all went for a ride and my ex was sitting next to me in the car. We were just talking and he all of a sudden wanted to know where the necklace and bracelet was that he had given me while we were going out - I have not been able to wear them because it has been too painful. I gave him a necklace right after we broke up because I had gotten it for him a couple of weeks before that but had never had the chance to give it to him. I wanted him to have it any way, though. Any way, he told me that he never takes it off. I said that that was because it was a cool necklace, not because I gave it to him and he said "that's not true. I have had a lot of cool necklaces and I usually lose them in 2 days". Any way, after a while he started tickling me and I grabbed his hand and we ended up holding hands all the way back to the bowling alley. I laid my head on his shoulder and he laid his head on my head. When we got back to the bowling alley, though, he acted like he always does, like it was no big deal. My best friend was in the car, too, and she said that you could still see the love for me written all over him. Then at school on Tues. he asked a couple of my friends to go to a movie with him and some friends this weekend but he did not ask me. I don't think he meant it as a date, just trying to get some people to do something. He would not ask 2 girls to go out at the same time right in front of each other. They are very good friends of mine, too, and he has never asked them to do anything before. Also, they would not go out with him any way - one of them can't stand him and neither one would go out with my ex any way, especially knowing how I still feel about him. Then later on I saw him at school and he made sue that he got his hug from me. This all has confused me even more than I already was. I don't know if he is hoping that one of them will have me come, too, or what. I'm tired of playing games with him. I tried to let him know how I feel last Fri. and I think he was letting me know how he still feels, too, but then he acts differently at school. I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should just give up and move on. I have decided, though, that if he wants me and still loves me, he's going to have to come after me. I tried to get him back a few days after we first broke up (1 1/2 mos. ago) and he didn't even give it a chance. I know he was really hurt but I have been very hurt, also. I love him more than I thought I could ever love any one at me age and I miss him more than anything in the world but I can't swallow my pride and beg for him to come back again. After all of this, do you still think he wants to be with me again?
He can't seem to make up his mind about you.
Isn't it about time for you two to have a heart to heart talk and find out what's on his mind? Talk truthfully, openly, caringly and maybe you can figure out how to handle this situation.
You don't have to beg him to come back, just calmly say that you still care for him. Let him take it from there.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com