I feel so ugly and used now
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
im so confused, i cant get this one person out of my mind, its like all day and all night, i think of them, the thing is i know he doesnt like me. we kissed, but he wanted something else, we talk but about nothing relevent. he didnt call me today. im starting to think he hates me. i feel like im losing myself just because of this one person. hes making me feel so insecure and helpless, like im feeding off him or something. hes just getting out of a relationship so i know he isnt looking for one, my friends told me about what a player is, which is why i wouldnt alow myself to go any farther, but now im almost regretting my choice, because i feel like he wont like me anymore since i didnt give him what he wanted. i feel so ugly and used now. yet im so hung up on this guy please help me and provide me with some advice. do you think that he just talked to me to get with me or to know me as a person? do you think he is going to continue it? and how can i get him to like me? like what do i have to do, can you please explain why im attracted to a mna that makes me feel so needy and yet so negitive?
You didn't say how long ago this happened with him. My guess is that it was very recent. If I'm right then the answer to all your questions are... it is too soon to say.
You should feel pretty and unused right now because you didn't let this player go farther than you felt comfortable with. He was disrespectful to try so much on the first effort.
Some women are attracted to bad men. Maybe you are one of those. Think hard about this because it could affect your future in a great way. You do feel that you deserve to have a good man, right?
You know he isn't ready for a relationship so don't expect him to show more than a casual interest in you and probably interested in physical things.
Give yourself more time to get your feelings under control and get a better perspective on this matter.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com