Out of nowhere, he says "Well, I need to think about it"
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I was with my boyfriend for three months. He is a divorcee. He really rushed into the relationship, expensive gifts, wanting me to move in, etc., etc.. Anyway, he broke up with me right before Christmas, stating he didn't want to be in a relationship. 3 weeks later he dated another girl. We had decided to stay friends. He told me that while he was out with this girl, all he could think about was me. So last week he started crawling back in a sense. Asked me to be his roommate, asked if he could take me out for my birthday, started calling me beautiful and princess again. On and on. Well, last night, I went over to his house. We watched a movie and all that and started cuddling. Then he tried to make out with me, which I wasn't going to have since he was not "with me" in a relationship. Friends just don't kiss friends! I ended up storming out of his house, saying I had lost all respect for him and didn't want anything to do with him anymore. I left but we ended up talking 5 minutes later on the phone. He was BAWLING! He said he was still in love with me and had wanted to get back together with me and had felt like I was rejecting him all week long. Then I confessed that nothing would make me happier than to be with him and how much I still loved and cared for him. But then, out of nowhere, he says "Well, I need to think about it again. You really hurt me with what all you said". So now, he wants MORE time to decide whether he wants me back or not. I realize I said a lot of dumb stuff, but I apologized. I don't know what to do now, I still want him back.
He's jerking you around.
Give him a deadline to make up his mind because you are not going to wait forever. Say it in a nice way but get the message across. You are not a toy.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com