A Crush on a Girl from the Past
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Yesterday, I had one of those defining moments where time stands still. Before I ask for your advice on this, let me give you a little background:
2 years ago, in the 8th grade, there was this cute girl who had a major league crush on me. She was a sweet girl, but sometimes she just irked me. She hugged me EVERYTIME she saw me (forcing herself onto me); she always went around telling me (and all her friends) she loved me; she had all her friends ask me out (on her behalf) everyday; and once she even dragged me through the hallway in a headlock, saying how we were in love with each other and would get married one day, etc. I thought she was cute, but her actions were a big turnoff and were the reason I never asked her out then.
Fast-forward 2 years (yesterday). I went to the gym and saw her. I've seen her since, but haven't talked to her all that often. I didnt really notice her at first. As I was set to leave, my little sister asked to borrow my water bottle. She was on the treadmill behind my ex-flame, so I had to walk past her. All she did was give me a glowing smile, a slight wink, and a wave as I walked past, but suddenly I stopped. I took in what just happened and walked over to my sister, who blurted out to her friend that her brother had a girlfriend (my ex-flame). I denied it, but for the rest of the night I thought about it more and more. I realized this was still the same girl I liked 2 years ago, but now 2 years more mature.
Today, she was all I could think about, and flunked a test because I couldnt focus on anything but the thought of her. Is it possible that I really have these feelings for this girl or is it just me over-thinking a wave and a comment?
If I should go for it, how should I go about making my presence felt the next time I see her?
This is a pretty common thing - you have someone in your life that you either were bugged by before or took for granted ... but when you really think about it, they are actually pretty neat and you want to get closer.
The only way to know if you could really get along with this girl is to start spending time with her. Don't leap into dating her! Get to be friends with her first, talk with her, just chat with her. See if you guys get along in general, if you enjoy talking together, if you're comfortable around each other. If you are, then just keep building up the friendship!
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com