I made out with his room mate
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
i have a very confusing situation. i have been casually dating many different guys for all of my dating life. ive never had a serious relationship. then all of a sudden i meet this guy in my dorm. it was different than any guy i have ever met. he didnt just try to hit on me and get in my pants, he acutally talked and listened to me. well we had been casually flirting and just talking. nothing physical has happened between us, just pleasent conversation. i think that he likes me, just by the way that he looks at me, and how he always calls me outside when he goes out for a smoke. even when we are talking in a group of people it is like he only sees me and talks to me, he gives me his complete undivided attention. then all of a sudden he starts talking about this other girl. he is always meeting her for lunch. his room mate told me that they are going out, but he is still giving me the impression that he is single.
i was a bit upset and went out with his room mate (who is also my friend), and a few other friends for some drinks. i got completely smashed, and me and his room mate ended up making out. i dont even like him like that. i dont even remember most of the night, but my friends told me that his room mate was taking advantage of me, that i wasnt that interested in him. i am afraid that the guy i like heard that i made out with his room mate. what should i do? i actually feel somthing for this guy, somthing i have never fealt, or could even describe... im not saying im in love, cause i have only known him for a short time. i have seriously been considering giving up on dating in general.
Well if he still asks you out when he smokes you have your chance to come clean.
Tell him straight out that you find him attractive, that you had heard that he had a girlfriend, and tell him you got smashed and made out with his room mate.
See how he reacts. He was already attracted to you. You will find out whether he has a girlfriend or not. And you will find out whether he still feels good toward you after you made out with his friend.
Things generally work out best when you are just honest with the other person.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com