Now he has a girfriend, and it's torturing me
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
This is kind of long...
I'm 17, my brother is 22, and "the boy" is 19.
I met this boy first through my friend, because my friend was dating him. I only knew his name though. Then my brother became friends with my friend's boyfriend and they started working together. The boy would come over all the time because him and my brother are inseperable now, so me and him became/are good friends. Me and my friend arnt that close anymore, and she broke up with the boy. The boy went on a cruise with my family and when we went to dinner, he told me I looked great, and he would ask if I wanted somethin from his plate. Then he wanted me to come along for the activities they were doing during the day, like go to the hot tub with him, but of course what brother wants his little sister hangin out with him and his friend, so I had to say no. I often go to his job and just talk to him for a little bit, and one day I went there, and he seemed sad, so I said "You sound sad, what's wrong?" He said "I'm not now that I'm talking to you." I couldnt say anything after that. I didnt know what to say. Then he's like "It's nice talking to you." and smiled. I think that was a sign from him telling me he liked me, and to show him I liked him back, but all I said was "Awe. It's nice talking to you too!" I knew that my brother wouldn't like us dating at all. He doesnt want me hanging with him and his friends, much less dating them, so I couldn't tell him that I like him. I guess that was THE sign to tell him, but since I didn't, now he has a girfriend, and it's torturing me. I want to be with him, but he has a girlfriend. He still hugs me and stuff, but I'm not sure if he likes me. I invited him to a dinner theater and he's like "I don't know who to take." I told him he could ask his girlfriend, but he was just quite.
My questions are: Did this boy like me? Was THE sign really THE sign for me to tell him I liked him? Do you think he still likes me but he has a girlfriend? Thanks
Yes, I think he likes you.
He probably feels a little uncomfortable also regarding the brother-sister thing.
The best thing you could do is to just ask him how he feels about you. Or you could go first and tell him you are "developing feelings" for him and see what he says. Of course, you would mention that you would not want to come between him and his girlfriend. But, at least you would clear the air.
Give it a try! George
-- from George
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