Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Hi. i asked a question before and you answered it as "girl freezes up on guy"... it turns out that she didn't freeze up on me. now my situation is this... we've been good friends for 5 years, me and this girl that i have fallen in love with. I'm a junior in highschool and she's a senior. i'm 16 and she's 17. we joke around with eachother and stuff, but about a year ago i started to have feeling for her. anyway, she knows that i like her (even thugh i LOVE her) and as you answered me before, she sort of freezed up, but then she came back to normal and we started talking again as if nothing had happened. the problem that i have is that there is this guy that goes to notre-dame that the girl that i love is unofficially going out with. i want her sooo bad. A lot of guys just want girls for other stuff, but i really love her for who she is and i dont know what to do in this situation. i cant wait around for them not to be unofficially going out anymore because it is the girl's last year in highschool and then i wont be seeing her again. please what do i do???? Could you name this one "Love Hurts"? plz so i can recognize the answer. thanx.
First off, this system works better if you have an email address. That way, my reply will come back to you in an email so you don't have to go looking for it.
As far as your question... the key element is how serious is she with this college guy. Tell her sometime that you are starting to "develop feelings" for her and see what she says. If she says she has a boyfriend then you are out of luck. Otherwise you have a chance with her. If she doesn't really give you an answer, tell her you will give her time to think about it and that you will ask again the next time you meet. And then do it.
Remember that it is unlikely that a year from now you both will be living near each other, so factor that into your thinking.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com