Help me Be Less Jealous
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have the most wonderful boyfriend. We have been together for almost a year and he is nothing but amazing.
The problem is with me, I just can't stop worrying that he will cheat on me or leave me for another girl. I think these feelins are attributed to the fact that in the past, ex-boyfriends have done things like that to me but my current boyfriend and I have a much better, trusting relationship.
I don't want to cause any problems by my jelously and paranoid thought and I want to stop worrying about it all the time. Any thoughts??? please!
It's very good that you realize how destructive jealousy is and want to try to resolve it. Jealousy has easily destroyed millions of otherwise quite happy and healthy relationships. There are of course tons of books and movies and stories about jealousy and just how nasty it can be. It's been with us for thousands of years :)
I have a how-to on fighting jealousy here -
I would start working through it and make it an important aim in your life. You can definitely get through jealousy. Lots and lots of people have. But it does take some work, to "retrain" your brain to think differently. It can be done! And the reward of just being *happy* with your boyfriend is very much worth it.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com