I'm still shy to talk to girls
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Dear sir or madam:
I believe i need some help. I'm in a junior right now in high school. Still I'm still shy to talk girls. I know all the advice of how to talk to a girl. The problem is I don't know how to approach to them. I get scared and still scared not meeting a girl.
And the other thing is that I moved from N*, Il to I*,Il. Somehow i miss this girl who was incredibly beautiful. Her name is N*. I met her in 6th grade. Before finishing 8th grade on the last day of school, i gave a thank you letter and a little of romantic letter. The reason why i wrote thank you note because she wrote notes for me cause I'm hearing impaired. Anyway i gave the note to her the day before the last day of school. The next morning, i was walking down the hall to homeroom. I hear someone calling my name. I look around i see n* crying a little and gave me a hug. I felt really happy cause she hugged me. Cause i have never gotten a hug before from a girl. After school was out, i was shaking hands with my friends saying good bye cause i was moving to I*. She was with the group where i was shaking hands with. All of the sudden, she walks up to me and hugs me. She didn't know i was moving. I told her that i was moving, she didn't look happy. I gave her a hug and left. What should have i done. I can't get over it. I tried to past on but i can't.. Everytime i go to bed, N* gets into my dream. Every day i always wonder when am i going to see her again?
First regarding N*... imagine you are on a desert looking for an oasis and you have been looking for a long time. You remember the last oasis that you were at and wish you were back there. That's what's happening with N* -- she was the last girl you've had close contact with and that's why you think about her.
Approaching girls: this is very easy for self-confident guys, but most of us are somewhat shy. The way to approach them takes a little while but it is worth it and you can approach many in one day.
The way to do it is to know the names of girls you want to approach. Then, whenever you pass them in the hallway or see them in class, greet them by looking them straight in the eyes, saying in a clear voice "Hi" plus their names, and then giving them a big smile. Do this with lots of girls and soon you will find some that want to talk more than just a hi. This is fun to do.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com