I still have a deep love for him
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
my boyfriend and I of two years broke up a few months back because we constantly were "fighting for no reason" we we're both un-happy and kind of just got tired of eachother because we spent everyday together and became a stay at home couple. I broke it off with him in hopes that if we had some space it would help our relationship. Unfortionetly he took or "break" the wrong way and looked at it as I dumped him. He was very stubborn and refused to speak with me, he also got drunk one night and hooked up with a old friend of his whom happens to be an enemy of mine. He didnt admit to this at first because he "didnt want to hurt me" but i found out. Since then he is still friends with her, although im very unhappy because i feel insecure that he may do it again. We have been spending time together again in hopes to rebuild our relationship. But he still seems a little distant and I really would like to know how i can get myself to be less insecure about his friendship with this girl, and help us get close again...I still have a deep love for him...
You should feel insecure about that other girl at this point.
Try to talk this out with your ex and determine what his feelings are for the other girl. The more you talk about it the less insecure you will feel. This feeling of security will make him more attracted to you.
Getting closer is just a matter of hard work, but it can be fun too. Try to do things together. Don't argue for any reason at all. You be the non-arguer if you have to be. There are better ways to resolve matters than arguing.
Hope this turns out well for you! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com