She immediately got jealous
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I was the one with the financial problems with the daycare. Well, we've been living apart now for almost 7 wks. I've tried everything. She hasnt even wanted to have lunch or anything after a 6 yr relationship. Well today I knew she was gonna call me to see when I was going to pick the kids up. Last night I talked to her and again asked her if she wanted to get together for ice cream with the kids. or anything she wanted. She said nothing so I said just think about it and call me on your lunch break tomorrow. She did call and said she didnt know and only wanted to talk about arrangements w/ the kids. So as a last resort, I lied to her. I told her I had met a girl last weekend whom I knew from high school. That she had called me and I havent returned her call. She immediately got jealous. Her not talking to me has led me to believe that she was atleast talking to someone eles. I think now that it was all in my head. I then called her back and told her I was lying and just wanted to know if it would bother her or not. It did bother her but I'm afraid now that she might go out looking for someone else. I know now that she hasnt been going out and hasnt talked to any other guys. Now she is angry, but I just wanted some kind of reaction, because every question I've asked her for 7 wks. is "I dont know" Did I just push her over the edge or is her thinking about me w/ someone else a good thing?
It's difficult to answer your questions.
I really don't know what is going on in her mind or how she reacted to your "lie." Maybe you pulled her closer, maybe you pushed her away.
Have you tried the suggestions I made about improving your financial situation? For example getting the life insurance?
Finances is, I believe, the core of the problem between you two. If you can get a grip on that then there is hope for your relationship. So be looking for that better job, saving money, and protecting your family through life insurance (and no I am not an insurance agent on the side).
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com