He seems just too sweet to be using me
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
alright i'll try to make this as quick as possible. i just need to ask a few ?'s okay ? one is that i really like this guy i've been friends with him for about a year now. now my best friend had what seemed like a small crush turned out to be a massive crush on him. well i never thought he even liked me as anything more as a friend. i mean their were those occational moments. but we were sitting outside one night and he just acted really nervous. and kept staring at me. he also lent me his coat. well he grabbed my hand and just started makeing out w/ me. after that he didn't do much, after we messed around. i told my friend who i thought would be happy for me after all she's always telling me how he likes me and she gets this vibe and i just need to tell him how i feel already. well she got extreamly mad at me. well i decied to stay away. but then when the thought of us going out was brought up too him.. he just smiled really big saying she thinks were going out and then i heard nothing just that he was really happy. well when we were semi alone again he plays fottise with me and is always trying to grab my hand. well we did some more stuff, and my friend hated me even more even after she told me too go for it. well i still contuined to do stuff but now i'm not telling my friend. i feel bad but she always brings stuff up and makes me feel bad for what i did with him. well i never used to go out to his house w/ out her until just recently i went out there cause she just keeps telling me i can have him. and she swears she's not mad. and gets mad if i asked what's wrong. well again i came and sat by him, and he played footise with me. then when i was leaving he followed me to my truck. and he grabed my hand and we started hevily making out like we were nearly on top of each other. well he seemed to really be getting into, and all he said was i think we need to go back inside now. and i gave him a hug and he just left. now he seems to be one of those type of guys who's scared and shy cause he's really quiet and just lets his action speaks that or he's using me. but he seems just too sweet to be using me... and i think my friends upset because i went out to his house w/ her but she kept telling me to go and she keeps just sitting there and ingoring me am i in the wrong? so sorry so long... just needed some advice thanks....
You need to talk to each of these friends separately and find out how they feel.
Your girlfriend is very confusing... try to find out how she really feels so you can continue to have a good relationship with her.
The guy doesn't know how to communicate very well so you will have to start a conversation with him and do more than make out. Both of you will feel better after doing some talking... normal stuff but also some relationship stuff. I agree that he is probably not using you but is mostly shy.
Once you talk to these two things will go more smoothly.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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