She tells me that we are only speaking as friends, she has no intentions of getting with me
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I RECENTLY WROTE TO YOU REGARDING MY BREAKUP AFTER 2 YEARS. MY GIRLFRIEND IS THE STUBBORN, PRIDEFUL ONE.
ALSO FOUND HERE
WELL, ITS NOT EXACTLY A CHANCE, IN A WAY IT IS IN ANOTHER IT ISNT. THIS IS THE SECOND WEEK OF THIS AGREEMENT, FIRST DAY WE SPOKE FOR 2 1/2 HOURS AND CLEARED MOST OF OUR PROBLEMS. SECOND DAY WE SPOKE CLOSE TO 2 HOURS, MOSTLY BOUT HOW SHE FELT AND EVERYTHING. TODAY WE SPOKE, BUT I BROKEDOWN AND KEPT TELLIN HER I CARE ABOUT HER, WHY HAS SHE THROWN ME OUT OF HER LIFE, ETC. ALL THREE TIMES SHE KEEPS TELLING ME THAT WE ARE ONLY SPEAKIN AS FRIENDS, SHE HAS NO INTENTIONS OF GETTING WITH ME, THAT SHE DOESNT WANT TO GIVE ME FALSE HOPE. ALSO I FOUND OUT THIS GUY WHOM I THOUGHT WAS MY FRIEND INTERFERED AND BEGAN LIKING HER AND NOW SHE SEEMS TO LIKE HIM AS WELL, BUT SHE CLAIMS SHE HAS NO TIME TO BE WITH ANYONE. ALL THIS HURTS ME BECAUSE I DEEP DOWN LOVE THIS GIRL AND CARE ABOUT HER ON A LEVEL TO WHERE I LOOK AFTER HER AND WANT THE BEST FOR HER. I'M IN SO MUCH PAIN ITS IMPOSSIBLE TO EXPLAIN, I DONT KNO EXACTLY WHAT TO DO, MY HEART TELLS ME DONT QUIT, YET SHE BASICALLY SHOWS ME DAT NO MATTA WA I TRY IT WONT WORK. I ALSO COINCIDENTLY DROPPED IN TO THIS PLACE WITH 2 OF MY FRIENDS, AND GOT MY TARROT CARDS READ,AND SURPRISINGLY THIS LADY KNEW EVERYTHING DAT HAPPENED AND TOLD ME SHE WILL REALIZE WA SHE LOST AND WITHIN 3-4 MONTHS SHE WILL WANT ME BACK, BUT I CANT WAIT ALL THOSE MONTHS WITH HOPE IN MY HEART, AND MY BIGGEST MISTAKE PROLLY WAS TELLIN HER EXACTLY WA DEY TOLD ME. MY HEART DESIRES HER AND STILL HAS SO MUCH LOVE FOR HER. ITS LIKE I DONT FEEL HOPE, I FEEL FAITH, BUT DEN AGAIN IT CUD JUS B MY MIND PLAYING GAMES ON ME. WHAT DO I DO IN THIS SITUATION?
You will have to take advantage of her willingness to be friends with you.
You want contact with her and she wants space. To make both of these happen try this: call her once a week to see how she is doing, to let her know you care, and to maintain contact. Don't talk about your relationship. Be cheerful and don't talk for more than 15 mins.
Hopefully she will eventually come back to you.
I hope so! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com