2 weeks ago, she told her friends that she wants to be with me for the rest of her life, and now...Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
i dated a girl for 6 months. She broke up with me, bc she said it would b hard going into her freshman year with a bf. then she went to a party and made out with her first love, about a month after we broke up. i played it off as if it was cool but it hurt. I started hanging out with another girl, and she liked me alot, and the girl i dated hated that i was talking to her, and not giving her that much attention. She came over and poured her heart out to me, and told me she loved me for the first time, and how she wanted to marry me when she gets older. after she said that, it was awsome. it felt like old times. but i nver understood why we cant get back together and i got into alot of arguments,and took things out on her... things didnt go good for about 3 months, and she lost alot of feelings for me, but the past month and a half it started going real good, even better than when we were in a relationship. it felt soo good. we recently got in a fight, that in my opinion changed things real bad, she said she hated me.. we fought bc i told her things are going soo good and i dont understand why we cant get back together. its been almost 6 months since we have been together. I told her im fine with being friends right now, but if the most that can happen out of this, is that we are just friends, i need to leave the school, and maybe get away, cause it is soo hard being around her wen she is the only girl that is constantly on my mind and i want to b with her for the rest of my life..i asked if there was any hope, and she said i dont know. i want u to make your decisions for yourself. but all i needed was her to say that ya, its a possibility , but she put up a front. and only 2 weeks ago, she told her friends that she wants to be with me for the rest of her life. and now, she said its not the same as it used to be... she told me how she has realionship issues bc of her mom, and her moms past relationshops, and she needs to figure things out. but i dont get how im here for her, i want to be with her, and spend the rest of my life with her, and she knows i want to be with her, and she has said she wanted b with me, and now all of sudden , things changed so much. she says im selfish, and i only care about the title, and how she dosent trust me bc of me lieing to her about that girl i hung out with over the summer, even though nothing happend with her, i had no feelings for her, and i didnt kiss her or anything. i love this girl, so much and i want to be with her. what should i do?
She really isn't making it easy on you.
Sounds to me like she doesn't know what she wants herself. She tells her friends one thing and then doesn't followup with you.
My advice is to normalize the relationship. Starting now, call her only once a week to see how she is doing, to let her know you care about her, and to maintain contact. Try to avoid discussing your relationship. Be cheerful and don't talk for more than 15 mins.
This should take the pressure off your relationship and let you get back into what you had before.
Good luck! George
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