Iím in love with a guy at the same school as me but weíve never talked to each other IRL
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Does he REALLY like me?
I have a big problem and itís starting to drive me mad not knowing the answer. Iím in love with a guy who goes at the same school as me. I see him every day but weíve never talked to each other IRL, but we usually chat on MSN messenger, one or two times a week.
The problem is that I donít know if he wants to be more than friends. He almost never writes to me first, 90% of the times Iím the one who starts chatting with him. That you could maybe see as a proof of him not being interested, but itís more complicated than that. He is kind of a shy guy. He rarely leaves his house, except for hanging out with his friends. He never goes to parties and he doesnít drink alcohol. Most of the time I think, he spends in front of the computer, playing computer games and watching movies. I donít know if he chat a lot with other people than me since he sits a lot in front of the computer, but I doubt it. He has for example always his status set on idle and expects people to write to him anyway.
But why do I think that thereís a chance that heís interested? When we talk to each other heís nice most of the times, and I hope that he enjoys talking to me. Even though he rarely writes first Iíve noticed that if I wait a while and donít write for like two or three weeks he writes to me eventually. But then if he likes me, why does he write to me so seldom? Is it because heís shy or isnít he really interested? Is he just writing to me when heís BORED or something? When we are in school and we meet each other, he never ( and then I mean never) looks at me. But I sometimes see his friends look at me like if he had said something about me, but I donít know if Iím just imagining it. And if he has, I donít know if itís positive things or if theyíre just laughing at me behind my back. (thinking Iím desperate and so on) He knows that Iím interested, Iím sure. Iíve given him compliments and I give him attention by writing to him. My question is whether he is interested in me? Is he just shy or isnít he interested the way I want him to be?
Please answer! Iím desperate too know. / E*
One thing you need to do is to start talking to him IRL.
Whenever you see him, look him in the eye and say in a clear voice "Hi" plus his name and then give him a big smile. This will eventually lead to live conversations with him and you will get a better idea about what he is really like.
You shouldn't fall in love with someone that you have never spoken to.
He sounds a little shy and this real life conversation will help him lose some of that shyness and let you know how he really feels.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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