The problem is she is older than me and she has a bf

Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male

Can u please give me advice on this issue i have.

A female friend since childhood
-1 year older than me
=having a bf of 5 years
-talked about breaking up with me but dont want to
sacrify the relationship of 5 years
-just getting closer to her for 3 month
-spent time together everyday either in her house or
at school... much more than her bf
-her bf to her is irresponsible
-he doesn't come to her house anymore just she comes
to his house everyday after work
-she knows his family every well though
-we eat together everyday, laught together, care for each
other so much
-she told me she loves me once but i didn't say i love u
back!! regret
-she likes it when i hug her
-i feel she wants to kiss me allot the time, me too but
have to courage
-she knows that i love her, i know that she love me too
-she asks me to come to her house EVERYDAYYYYY to hang
out with her
-I'm falling for her so badddddddddddddddd
-she said I'm like her sister 3 times, im like her
boyfriend 1 time, said she would go out with me if
im a little musclar, said im a down to earth person,
i'll find a great women one day
-said i got pretty eyes and lips and handsome
-once i remember she said I'm the nicest person she has ever met and she wanted to cry ... i know she loves me right there

Well i love her so much and dont know wat to do can u help me ... The problem is she is older than me and she has a bf. Sometime i just want to make her seriously mad n get away from her. You think that good? ... i dont want to seduce her to make her break up with her bf. The problem is im very hurt to face her EVERYDAY! I'm so in love with her. Advice
You need to talk this out with her.

Tell her that you love her and see what she says.

Age is not a problem unless you live in a culture where it is very important. In the U.S. it isn't a problem.

She has to decide what to do with her boyfriend. If you tell her you love her and she loves you then she might want to say good-bye to her boyfriend. But, as you said, she might not want to lose a five year relationship.

Have a long trusting, honest and caring conversation with her as soon as possible.

Good luck! George

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