I try to ask her if she wants to call it off and she says no
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My fiance and i went out for 1 year had a baby within that time so it was always agruing after she got pregnant. She never would talk about our problems. So in july she left because i got pretty upset and she said i scared her. She moved in with her aunt quit talking to me, a month later she started dating another guy which didn't last but a couple of weeks. A couple weeks later she called we started having good conversations again. So things picked up she would come by maybe once a week and call everyday, but she said she didn't want to cause problems with her aunt because she lives ther and i told her i could respect that she constantly talked about getting a place and me stay with her on the weekends. But for the past couple of weeks she seems like she wants to stop spending time with me, because she says she coming over or she will call, but she don't. She still told me when i asked her about a house that she has not backed out of it she just haven't thought about. I try to ask her if she wants to call it off and she says no. I fell like she is trying blow me off And she says that not it. Do you think I'm trying to hard and what should i do about this.
I think she is waiting for a solid new place to live.
But she isn't taking solid steps to do that and meanwhile blowing you off about doing things together.
It's hard to say what is going on in her mind. Do you have a place of your own? If yes then why does she need a separate place for herself too? If you don't have a place of your own, perhaps now is the time to get one.
She has an easy life at her aunt's. The aunt probably cooks free food for her, and provides a free and frequent babysitting service, and laundry service too. You are going to have to figure out how to fight that.
Why not ask her out to dinner and try to discuss the living arrangement and figure out a way to live together.
Hope some of this helps! George
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