she is in school and work and taking care of her daughter
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I'm submitting this question in regards to my ex. We are no longer together and I wish there was a way for me to get her back. We never really stopped seeing each other, but lately she cut alot of the things we once did off. I don't know why she thought that was a good thing to do or was it? I know she is in school and work and taking care of her daughter, but why doesn't she want to make a little time for me. I sometimes see it in her eyes that she wants to move forward with me and other times not so in the mood. I've taken it upon myself to not have no communication of any sort with her for a week to see how it would go and it was alright . By the weekend, I was missing her. At the same time though, she didn't call me. She said that she was busy. Now I just try to keep the conversation short as possible. Its something I've never done before with her and I think maybe its working. I may not see it nor hear it, I just feel it.
She is a very confused person and I'm wondering if the biological father,who is not in his daughter's life, has something to do with this invisible wall she has protecting herself from being happy or loving someone. I've tried to be the best I could be, but she gives me crossed signals. I know she cares a great deal for me, but what8 can I do to show her I want to be with her and am I doing the right thing by not talking to her and keeping conversations to a minimum? Is this considered playing a game or is it more of a lesson taught. What can I do to win her trust and have her open up more to me?
You are doing the right thing.
Calling once a week and keeping the conversation short is not a game but a good way to make her feel better. Make sure she knows you still love her but don't dwell on your relationship.
Her busy schedule is the real problem for you. Try to think of thing you could do to reduce her hassle... offer a ride, or babysitting services, anything that will give her time to get things done that are piling up for her.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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