I know he loves me and he's not 100% sure if I'm "the one"
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
my ex and I haven't been dating for over a month. We didn't talk for a while and talked a lot last week. Two phone calls about 30 min. each and played ball one night for a while with friends. While we were playing he winked at me. What's that?!!! I don't feel as if he was showing off or anything like that, but it makes me wonder why he did it. He left that evening without saying bye and I didn't call or follow him or say anything. Later that night he sent a text saying "thank you" I was confused. I said "you're welcome?" and all he replied was "for volleyball" I don't know what the means. All I replied was "I had a lot of fun". We haven't really talked since then. I saw him at church, then at the gym yesterday. He knows I work-out the same time everyday and he was there. He always works out in the morning! Why was he there? Does he expect me to just be his friend all of a sudden? I want more than anything to be back with him. I know he loves me and he's not 100% sure if I'm "the one". He's already kind-a gone out with another girl, but I know he'll realize soon enough that there's not another me out there. We had the most amazing relationship, this is killing me! I KNOW that he is "the one"! I went out with a guy the other night and had fun but he wasn't my ex. Do I just keep my distance and let him figure it out. I'll always be nice to him and talk to him, but I don't want him to think that I'm automatically going to be his best friend again. I want more than that. Sad thing is, I think he does too!
My advice is to return as a best friend.
The way he has been acting seems to indicate that he wants more that best friends. So go along with best friends and possibly it will develop into something more. Easy as "bump, set, hit" :)
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com