I've tried to talk to him and he told me not to call him anymore
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me 2 days ago. It was simply out of the blue! The day before, we had been intimate and completely in love and the next he was breaking up with me. 8 months ago, I gave a guy in one of my classes my number because he wanted to borrow a textbook he lost. He ended up sitting by me and I'm not going to lie, he was cute. I didn't LIKE him, but he was attractive. My boyfriend was very jealous and didn't like me talking to other guys, so I never told him I gave this guy my number, even though it was just to borrow a book. When he found out, he almost broke up with me. I stayed up all night begging and pleading with him to give me another chance. He didn't know if he could trust me again. Since then, I've let him check my phone to see who's called me, he checks my yahoo messenger to see who I've talked to, etc. I got a little put out with this lack of trust, and blocked my boyfriend from my messenger list so he couldn't see if I was online or not. He was looking at my messenger list and saw that I had made it to where I appeared permanently offline to him. He totally flipped, calling me deceitful and dishonest. I didn't do this so I could talk to other guys! I would never ever cheat on him. He's the love of my life. He gave me a promise ring a little over a year ago, and wrote me a poem, saying he promised he would always love me. Do I deserve him back after wronging him twice? I've tried to talk to him and he told me not to call him anymore, that he would call me when he was ready. He called me today and said he could never be with me again because he couldn't trust me. I did everything I could during our relationship to prove that he could trust me. What else can I do? How can I get him back? I'll do ANYTHING it takes! He said he's only going to call to check on me to see how I'm doing, not to apoligize or get back with me.
Thank your lucky stars that you have broken up!
Although it is painful now, time will heal the hurt.
The guy is a jerk (sorry to say that about someone you love). He is entirely and completely out of line with his complaints. He is a controlling, jealous person who would make your life miserable if you stayed with him.
My advice is to realize that you are going to suffer some pain but know that it is for the best. Even if he begs you to come back, please resist the temptation. He will just find some other thing to hassle you about and you will have to go through the heartache again.
Sorry you are in this situation! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com