I may be pregnant, by either man.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My husband and I have been friends for 13 years and together for 3 years. We've been married 8 months. We're both 24 and I have 2 children from a previous relationship. Through the majority of our relationship, my husband has been using drugs. Always pot, then last year he had an issue with meth and I left him. He got clean and we decided to get married. Recently he's been using again casually. I am so frustrated, we argued about it and he says he won't use ever again. I love him so much, but feel so distanced and betrayed by him.
A friend of his started staying with us about a week ago, and has been paying so much attention to me. He'll sit and talk with me and actually want to spend time with me, and has an upbeat attitude (all things that are missing in my relationship with my husband lately, and I think the majority is drug related). I've started sleeping with my husband's friend.
I don't know where to go from here. I am loving the time and attention from this other man, but I don't even really know him well, and am not ready to leave my husband.
I kind of feel that I'm giving my husband the chance to clean himself up and keep his family, while getting what I need at the same time.
I know I'm just confusing myself though. On top of that, I may be pregnant, by either man.
Ask your husband to get this man out of the house asap.
If you have to, tell him that you are attracted to the other guy and want to get temptation out of the way for the sake of the marriage. Mention his drug problems as part of the situation too.
That should catch his attention. Ideally he would boot the guy out and get off drugs. Life isn't that simple usually, but who knows in this case it just might work. In any case, there aren't a lot of options.
Hope this turns out well for you!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com