he says he doesn't need any of the other girls, but I still feel insecure
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
6 months ago i got a new job, and i met this guy. at first glance we thought we were total opposites, but about 2 months ago we became good friends. He'd call me and ask for advice, and i'd do the same to him. a month weeks ago we started talking about other things. I had had a dream about he and i having sex and i told him, and we talked about it. I already knew all of his lines that he tells other girls and all, so he had to come at me with a different approach. it wasn't long before we were best friends...I didn't lie to him and he didn't lie to me. We had sex about three weeks ago. at first it was just like "friends with benefits" then we started cuddling afterwards, then we started really talking on the phone all the time, and seeing each other a lot. then I told him i loved him...like a friend, like i'd love my best friend, but then he told me he actually loved me. now we don't have sex as much, we mostly just hold each other and talk about how we feel. the continuing problem is that the advice he used to ask me for was about other girls. and not just a few, but 4. we're only friends right now but I want him to stop talking to the other girls, because i'm extremely jealous. I just don't know how to say it to him. he knows i love him and he tells me every day he loves me. we're planning on going to college and living together, and he says he doesn't need any of the other girls, but I still feel insecure.
It's time to speak up to him.
You both know you love each other, so he should be willing to do whatever he can to make you happy.
So tell him how to make you happy... stop talking with those other girls.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com