I am jealous of the other two women he has had in his life
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I met my boyfriend about five months ago. I was a science tutor at my university and he showed up one night for help. I basically followed him home and never left. He is my first boyfriend and basically the only person I have ever had any type of relationship with. He had only been single for about six months before I meet him. His ex-girlfriend, whom he proposed to, cheated on him and ripped his heart out. Upon coming to this school, he was with someone for a brief time. When I met him and about 3 Ĺ months after that he had refused to be in a relationship with me but had no issues with what we were doing. Anyway, I have trouble understanding my emotions a lot of times but I think I am jealous of the other two women he has had in his life. It is almost like a panic, get nervous, and/or sick when I even think about his past. I read through some of what this site had to offer and I am not sure what to do. I think it might be partly because I am graduating in eight months to go to Med. School. I mean I donít want to leave him. Part of me feels that if I leave he will find someone else. I mean if it makes him happy that would be nice, but I wish it was me. This is basically what goes through my head most of the time. I donít know what to do. Please give me any advice or comments you can think of. Thank you so much.
Your jealousy over the past is doing nobody any good. What's past is past and you should work very hard at fighting the jealous feelings whenever they arise.
You are leaving for med school in 8 months. Then what? How would you maintain a relationship? Long distance? This doesn't seem likely based on what you said.
Your best bet is to enjoy him while you can and then if you two are willing try to make it a long distance romance. Otherwise it is time to move on.
-- from George
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