Going Out Secretly
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
i'm in 8th grade and this guy I like is in 7th grade we're in a mixed contium and he likes me and i like him but he not allowwed to go out with girls. He can go out with me secretly but his sister will tell on him. What do I do?
Doing things secretly is never the answer. Your relationship should be founded on trust, love, honesty. Not on sneaking around behind people's backs and lying. A relationship that involves lying is one that is really going to hurt you both. You'll feel badly because of the lies, that bad feeling will get associated in your mind with the relationship, and really harm it.
The core of any good relationship is being best friends. That's THE most important part of any boyfriend-girlfriend situation. So work on that first. Be best friends to each other. Do things together, have fun together, talk together. You don't have to "go out". The same emotion is there between friends, and many times the best friends are MORE close than people who date are.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com