maybe he is not even doing anything wrong and I'm suspecting for no reason?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I'm 19 years old and my boyfriend is 20. We have a long-distance relationship. We've been together since 6 months now. When we first got together, there was his best friend who stays in Canada whereas he lives in UAE. They never met each other though. The first time i spoke to his "best friend", she was very mean and all that, I soon realized she was in love with him.. or rather wanted to possess him. I told him about it, but he refused so i let things pass and waited for him to realise it on his own. After being with him for 3 months, I started to suspect he has something with her, so i started to find out ( it was very very hard due to the distance) but i did .. and he was with her for 2 weeks when I confronted him and told him I found proof that he cheated on me with his best friend..he said that he was confused because she was his best friend and when she confessed her true feelings, she started crying alot and threatened to commit suicide. He cared for her alot and therefore, couldn't see her crying so much so carried along with her. I left him for a while coz I couldn't talk to him or look at his face, but then I missed him so much and after gettin advice from some ppl, i gave him a chance. But, we've argued abt tht girl so many times now and I dunno how to trust him. Recently, there's been another girl in his life , just as a friend, but he chats with her alot and kept the phone with me to talk to her, too. I want to trust him but I feel I need to start finding out if he's doing sth with this girl too. When he saw I was gettin angry abt his friendship with this girl, he told me that I'm too possessive and i'm tying him up and he's choking. We will meet soon again and we might have sex, he is not forcing me..I want to, too..but what do i do here? I want to make sure 100% that he is not cheatin on me or lying to me again before we do it. I don't want to lose him .. I know he loves me.. I feel it .. He shows it.. but I still feel in a way, he might be with another girl for some time pass but in the end he will remain with me..but I can't share him with anyone.. maybe he is not even doing anything wrong and I'm suspecting for no reason? Please HELP! :( We fight soooo much abt that...it just seems like if it doesn't stop soon, we will hav to break up..
Long distance relationships are tough.
They require a lot of trust and honesty. This is where you and your boyfriend are having trouble. When you come down to it you have no choice but to trust him. Ask him gentle questions to see what he will say. But you have to trust him.
-- from George
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