I was with my girl for 5 months and we fell in love
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Well, I was with my girl for 5 months and we fell in love. I know its love because of my past experiences and I can now tell the difference. We were in love, but the thing was, I needed space at one point. I didnt really know this, but by me not knowing, I was confused about us. I didnt know if I wanted to be with her, I didnt know about our relationship, even though I still loved her like hell. This was about 3 months into the relationship. After me being confused, starting then, she started feeling bad about herself, started questioning herself and eventually, over a month, she lost love for me. She fell out of love basically. I now know, ever since finally being alone, that I do want her, that I only want to be with her, and that I want to spend the rest of my life with her. I'm so sure about this now, but for her it's too late and she will never give me another chance. She says I crossed the line of no return, but I dont want this love to be finished like this. I still belive we can work at this. I want to give her time, but I feel so horrible about leaving her, and realizing too late what I really felt. How can I get her back?
You say you fell in love five months ago but then had second thoughts.
No wonder she doesn't trust you anymore and doesn't seem to want to give you a chance. Understanding that may help you get her back. You have to face up to what you did and how it affected another human being. But you know that.
Getting someone back is a long process of developing a good friendship again and being there when she needs someone to share her feelings with. Call her every so often and see if she needs support.
We also have tips on this topic at: http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/9
Hope they are helpful!
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