I left for a whole year and never even remotely got over him
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I was dating a guy for 6 years. We met while I was a Senior in Highschool. A year after we met I became pregnant but we felt we were to young and unsure to get married or keep her, so we placed our baby for adoption. We temporarily broke up afterwards thinking that if we didn't keep our baby, we shouldn't stay together. A month later he called me to "talk" and that night he asked me to marry him. 3 months after getting engaged we broke up again because we wanted different things (he wanted different things) We dated on and off for the next three years. Everytime we would get serious, he would tell me that he didn't want to get married or that "he didn't want a girlfriend." I moved accross the country to get over him but when I cam back a year later, we got back together AGAIN. He were are 7 years after we met and starting to date again. I am really scared to get my heart broken again. Each time it gets worse. We don't fight, we get along really well. I love him more than anything. Our baby's birthday was a few days ago and he told me that he regrets placeing her for adoption, and if he could go back he would have married me and we would have kept her. I am so confused by him. One minute he is saying things like that,and calling me, making plans with me, sleeping with me, and the next he "isn't looking for a girlfriend." I dont know what to do, I dont know how he really feels. I left for a whole year and never even remotely got over him. Any advice?
What you need is communication.
Have a long, tender, caring, honest, trusting conversation with him and ask him why he goes from a tender lover to someone who doesn't seem to care.
After several of these conversations, you should come to an understanding of what makes him tick. You both have invested a long time in this so it is worth the effort.
-- from George
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