YESTERDAY, I FOUND ONE OF THESE FRIENDS CELL PHONE NUMBERS IN HIS WALLET
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I AM 38 MARRIED 14 YEARS AND HAVE THREE BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN. MY MARRAIGE IS GOOD. BUT I HAVE A PROBLEM DEALING WITH JELOUSEY WITH MY HUSBAND. HE HAS ALOT OF WOMEN FRIENDS, MOST OF THEM HE HAS WORKED WITH FOR YEARS AND I KNOW THEM, NOT TOO LONG AGO I FOUND OUT THAT HE HAS OTHER WOMEN FRIENDS THAT HE IS CONSTANTLY EMAILING AND THESE EMAILS HAD ISSUES IN THEM ABOUT THINGS THAT WOULD REALLY MAKE A WIFE WONDER AND GET UPSET.HE IS ALSO HAVING LUNCH WITH THESE WOMEN(I WAS NOT SUPPOSSED TO KNOW THIS). ISSUES WERE CONFRONTED AND ARGUED ABOUT. HE TELLS ME THEY ARE ONLY FRIENDS AND I HAVE NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT. BUT I HATE SECRETS, ESPECIALLY IN MARRAIGE.
YESTERDAY, I FOUND ONE OF THESE FRIENDS CELL PHONE NUMBERS IN HIS WALLET, AND I HAVE GOTTEN VERY UPSET. I EVEN FOUND A WAY TO CHECK HIS MESSAGES AT WORK.
HOW DO I LEARN HOW TO LEARN HOW TO TRUST HIM AND NOT BE JELOUS(ALOT OF IT COMES FROM MY LACK OF SELF CONFIDENCE).
It sounds like he likes to flirt with women a lot.
You are justifiably concerned about this.
Here are tips on how to fight jealousy, see them at: http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/23682
You might also think of ways to compromise... for example he shouldn't be calling women on his cell phone. If none of this works, my advice is to see a professionally trained counselor.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com