My girlfriend broke up with me 6 months ago we shared a lease so we lived together since then
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Hey my girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me 6 months ago but we were stuck together in a lease so we had live together since then. For the first 5 months I was all over her about getting her back. I had pushed her away due to being sick with a mental problem that I didnt have treated right. Thats why she dumped me.I didnt mean to do it but I was out of control. Finally about a month ago my new treatment finally started working and we got along well, but she finally moved out this past weekend ,b/c she needed her own place. I am obviously still upset. I did so much for this girl when I was feeling "normal" and she knew I deeply loved her. Now for the last month I wanted to go out on good terms and I made extra effort to do nice little things like getting her favorite iced coffee and ice cream without asking her and surprised her with other things but I didnt flaunt it in her face. I just was acting like I always did before I got sick.I always did sweet nothings for her, and I wish she would remember them. Now what do you suggest I do ? I know she is the one for me but I am not sure what my gameplan is to win her back from this point. We communicate just to for bills from now on until Nov and then we have no reason to speak. Now IM hoping that she dates and sees that she misses me or one night alone she starts to miss me and calls me when I least expect it, I mean in 5 years we have only been apart for 3 weeks max. I stashed a poem I wrote and a burned cd with ONE song in her dresser that she has never heard that states what I would say to her perfectly and I wrote the lyrics down. I hope she listens and reads the poem one snowy night and misses me but there are no guarantees. I assume I have to def give her space and see what happens right ? I dont want to drop off the face of the earth b/c I want her to know Im still out there and care about her..Please help..
You've had plenty of opportunity to win her back but it didn't seem to work.
Perhaps she needs that space to clear out her head and find out what she really wants. Hopefully she will decide that she wants you.
Meanwhile contact her about once a month to remind her that you still care for her and to ask her how she is doing. It can't hurt.
I wish you a lot of luck!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com