But I know for a fact that he keeps asking girls out
Visitor's Question from a unknown year old Female
Hello, well first of all I want to say sorry I write in here so much! And I really appreciate the advice.
I'm kind of in a very confused place right now about my ex, when I wrote before I said how we were together over 2 and a half years and we broke up a few months ago. And now we are best friends and we still have a sexual relationship as well as holding hands and stuff in public sometimes, and we even buy eachother things sometimes (dinner, drinks, etc, but rarely). He still tells me he loves me too, and says very nice things to me.
Well the reason I have continued the friendship in this way is because he keeps telling me that he isnt looking for any other girls right now and isnt interested in any. But I know for a fact that he keeps asking girls out cuz my very good friends have told me, ones I trust. He has told them, and then they tell me, but he swears to my face that he hasn't asked girls out.
Also, I know he's always been a huge flirt, he used to do it right in front of me and then say I was being jealous if I said anything. Well I ran into one of his old best friends who is a girl, and she was telling me about how while we were dating he'd go up to her and put his arm around her and say "wouldn't we make a great couple?". Also, we always took the sexual part of our relationship super slow, and he always told me that stuff didn't matter to him...but the girl told me he'd hit on other girls and when they complained he had a girlfriend he'd say "well I haven't gotten laid in a long time". He has cheated on a girlfriend before me....but I don't think on me. But this girl told me he is a real "horndog" and if his girlfriend isn't around he has no inhibitions about what he does.
I never ever knew he was like this, in all our time together, it is a shock to me. I knew he was a flirt but not that bad.
So my question now is, would it even be worth it to keep trying for this guy? I love him more than anything, I thought he was my true love and still have until I heard this. It's like I didn't even know him the whole time we dated. Is this something I should just forget and keep trying for him because I love him?
Your love is left over from when you were together.
If you really analyze it, you may discover that you really don't love him as much as you think you do. You may be remembering the loving feelings and be afraid of losing them.
Try to let those feelings go by finding new boys to be with. Or get very busy so your mind has something else to think about.
From what you have said, it is time to move on and look for a happy life.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com