Everytime i see them doing that, it seems more to me like they are the couple, not me and her
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Hi, i hvae been with my gf for nearly 8 months now. I really love my gf very much, but due to my personality, i will get quite unhappy when i see her VERY close to her best friend, which happens to be a guy. She is very physically close to the guy, although they didn't exhibit "over-the-board" actions, such as kissing. She says she has gotten used to my personality, and she has learnt to accept it. The problem now is how do I get over this kind of things? Everytime i see them doing that, it seems more to me like they are the couple, not me and her, and i get a little upset. I have tried telling myself that it's nothing, she loves me, not him, and they're just very close friends. But it hasn't worked, and i'm thinking if i should leave her now, since i don't have any clue on what i should do to make myself stop feeling this way.
It all comes down to love and trust.
If you love her, you want her to be happy and if that means being very close to her good friend that that is what you should be hoping will happen for her.
If you trust her, the same applies. Even if she kissed him hello or goodbye, it would not bother you.
It should not even bother you if she and he took a vacation together.
It takes a strong relationship to have such love and trust. But if your relationship is not that strong then you should probably break it off.
-- from George
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