When should I Kiss Her?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
hey there's this girl that i like and im afraid to go out with her because i did before. why im afraid is because i never know when to kiss her i dont know how slow to take it when to do it how, and when im about to get the nerve to i backdown do u now anything i can do to help me become more confident in my kissing and when to do that stuff thanks
First. Kissing and hugging is an expression of comfort, love and tenderness between two people. If you're not comfortable, you're not, period! You should never force it. That goes against the whole idea. If you force yourself to, it's just wrong.
Think of this girl as your best friend. You can talk to her, share anything on your mind, be with her, just enjoy her presence. You should feel comfortable and at ease with her around. Hug her. Sit next to her. Hold her hand. Put your arm around her. These things should make you feel GOOD. And of course make HER feel good too. These shouldn't have to be dares you set. They should be natural, comfortable things you feel. If they're not, then wait until they are.
Then at some point, with your arms around each other and snuggling together, you should WANT to kiss, because you already feel good and that would feel good too. Then kiss! And kiss because you both want to. But don't kiss because some book says you have to or because your friends pick on you. This is your life. Only you can life it, and you're the one who will remember it for another 50+ years. So enjoy it, and do the things that make you happy. When it feels comfortable, you will KNOW and it will be AMAZING.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com