I'm jealous of her exs
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I've been dating this girl for some time now. She is the best thing to ever happen to me and i love her very much. My only problem is that she has had a few ex boyfriends (one of which was a close friend of mine) that she has done more sexual things with than she has with me. she says she loves me more than anyting thing and i believe her. i just don't know how to get this feeling of jealousy to go away. I've done everyting i can to get myself to stop thinking of it, and i didn't used to care about it before. I constantly remind myself that "she loves me" but the weight on my shoulders never seems to lift. please help me to get rid of this feeling because i don't want it to come between us.
If anything, you should be very happy!! Sex is NOT what makes a relationship strong. In many cases it can destroy a relationship! So she's telling you she cares enough for you NOT to go jumping into things that could harm your relationship with each other.
It's easy sometimes to equate sex with love. But really, don't do it. What you have with her is SPECIAL and is different than anything she has had with anybody before. She has learned a lot from those relationships, just like you've learned about life from the relationships you have had in the past. Treasure the woman she has become, and take things at the pace they unfold. Because you two are taking your time, yours can be the relationship that really lasts a long, long time ...
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com