he is going on those personals websites and sending messages to other girls on there
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hi. me and my boyfriend were together for 1 year and 4 months. All of a sudden we started to argue over little things everyday almost. Well now he said that we aren't going to be together until i fiz my problems and get everything starightened out. He said we can still act lke we were together and do everything we did before but we just weren't going to be together. I take it we are on a break. He says he says he still loves me and has the same feelings for me and nothing has changed and that he doesn't want anyone else right now The only thing is, is that he is going on those personals websites and sending messages to other girls on there. He thought that i didn't know until i mentioned it to him. He got mad and said why were you going through me email? I don't know whta to think now. Why is he doing that if he said that he still loves me and doesn't want anyone else? Is he just exploring other options or just playing around just because on those kind of sites? Do you think that he really loves me and wants it to work out? Does it sound like he wants someone else? I'm confused. I really love him and want to be with him. I want this to work out.
Arguing is the problem.
Since you are asking for the advice I suggest that you stop fighting with him. Instead, start agreeing with him even if you don't agree. Just tell him (gently and lovingly) that you are going to stop fighting because it is breaking you up.
Once you get used to agreeing with him, you will then have the skills to engage him in some discussions where you don't agree.
Hopefully this will help you out.
-- from George
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