it's been a year and i realize how much i actually love him and no one out there compares to him
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
ok to make a long story short. I dated this great guy for two years and we broke up for reasons i still can't pin point(stupid).which was a year ago now.But in reality i was moving back home from school and he was staying for one more semester. we actually broke up two months before i left. i thought i wanted others things but i was wrong. so anyways he actually broke up with me because he could feel i was pulling away and he thought i was going to just leave him when i left. so right after we broke up he knew what he did wasn't what he really wanted and was begging me to come back to him. i still thought i wanted to explore what else was out there so i didn't. but he didn't know how i felt, he just thought i needed time by myself because i had some family issues at the time. so he would beg for me to come back and help with what was going on in my family.but i just didn't because i needed a little freedom i was only 22. so one day i get a love letter from him in the mail saying how much he loves me and how he realizes i don't need him in my life anymore and how the only way we are going to get married now is in his dreams, which broke my heart. but for some reason after getting the best letter of my life i still didn't go back. so i ended moving home and we just remained just being friends and kind of just lost touch. i stopped calling him and he stopped calling me. i was excited to be home so i was really busy and i could tell he was sort of jealous and angry because i was doing what i needed to do with out him, but i needed to get a job and start my life you can't blame me, but then again he was happy for me that i was doing good for myself.(which the plan was when we were still dating he was going to move home with me,but had to stay for an extra semester)so it's been a year now and i realized how much i actually loved him and no one out there compares to him. i think about him every day, i didn't realize how in love with him i was. but now i heard he is dating someone for about nine months now which i guess he stared dating her right after me. so i emailed in febuary to congradulate him on graduating and to see how he was doing , becuase thats when i started realizing how i felt. and he mailed me back but it was very short but nice. so i emailed him again a month later to see how he was doing and he responded nicely and told me he still thinks about my pretty smile it. and so i emailed him back that i would love to talk to him on the phone and asked him for his new number (because we both have new numbers)and that i still thought about him too, and he never responded back. and now that was four months ago and still no word, but i think he is still with that girl. so i don't know what to think deep down i know he still loves me and i know i still love him but now it's been a year and he has a girlfriend. he is a great guy and i don't want to loose him but i hope i already didn't. which i know deep down this girl is a rebound and all of our mutual friends say the same but i don't know what to do. please give some honest advice good or bad.
You may have missed the boat on this one.
Your best shot is to continue to write him and tell him that you've realized that you love him. Keep doing it, but know that he may get satisfaction from shooting you down the way you did to him.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained, so go for it as strongly as you can.
-- from George
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