I don't think he's cheated on me with another woman, but with drugs. Money kept disappearing

Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Could you please help me...I'm so confused. I trusted my ex boyfriend not to cheat on me and I loved him so much, but he's nbow just walked out of my life. I don't think he's cheated on me with another woman, but with drugs. Money kept disappearing and he wasn't paying bills on time,which we broke up over, but then we got back together and I thought he'd change. Yet recently he lied to me about money again and we had what I thought was a petty argument....but then he walked out, and didn't come back. At first I thought he'd be back but he hasn't and I haven't seen him since. I've tried calling, but he ignores my calls. The reason I'm so confused is that when we're together he's so sweet and he says I'm the love of his life and he can't live without me....but now this. I can't seem to get over losing him. Before we met I was a confident person. When I first met him I thought he was really ugly, and everyone commented how much better looking I was than him but he won me over and I gradually fell for him, and he became to me the most beautiful man in the world. But gradually the roles changed, he'd tell I was ugly and fat and I became unconfident and developed low self esteem whilst his confidence went through the roof. Could you give me advice on what to do to get back to being me....Also, there's one last thing I'd like to ask please. When we first got together I intended it to be a casual fling and I wasn't that interested. Even after we got together properly I was mean to him sometimes and always stood my ground. But as I fell deeper and deeper in love with him, I began to be nice to him and treat him like a king.....this seems to be where the situation changed...he was always so nice to me when I was mean to him but when I was nice to him he treated me badly. Should I be mean or nice? Please help. Thankyou so much for reading this.

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You can't have a good relationship based on falsehood.

Being mean or nice to him is manipulative and is not open. It is keeping a secret from him to try to control him. This may be his fault, but it will become your fault if you go along with it.

My feeling is that he is not worthy of you for many reasons including money, drugs, his attitude. And now he walked out on you.

Why do you want him back? Because you love him? Think twice before deciding you love him... you may just have gotten used to the relationship and are afraid of changing to something new.

My advice is to dump him.

Good luck!

-- from George
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