I am 13 and want my boyfriend to sleep over
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Hey..I am 13 and deeply in love, My boyfriend is 15...and he's the oldest Ive ever really been truly in love with...My dad has never let me date before...Only him....Me and him have been together for three years off and on but it was Because..My dad wouldn't let us be together..Now he realizes that he's not after me for sex he's after me for my personality and my heart....
He comes over every day and spends time with me all the time...I always come first to him we've both dropped our friends for each other....The only problem Im having is He has to leave..at like 1:00 in the morning...On weekends...But After he leaves im bored out of my mind...so I want him to stay the night...But my dad always says no for some reason Ive told him Im not gonna do anything..Because sex is probably what he thinks is gonna happen...and It's not..If it came down to it Id have protection 3 or 4...
Anyways...My mom seems cool because she doesn't care if he stays, the night it's my dad that cares so much and there's no harm I dont understand..Please help me thanks..BMW
It sounds like you've lost the balance in your life!! You are saying that you are with your boyfriend until **1 am** and then when he leaves you are a helpless jellyfish who cannot possibly do anything else with her life. That the only way you can be happy is to have him with you. That is REALLY REALLY unhealthy.
Being in a great relationship is about being an INDIVIDUAL who has a great time in life ... and then finding another INDIVIDUAL who also has a great time in life and then merging those two worlds. It is NOT about one person being a leech and only being happy when the other person is around!! That's one of the surest ways to destroy any relationship.
I think it's time for you to take a step back and look at what YOU are. You're an individual. You're a person. And you should really have more in your life than just being with this one person! A happy life is about having girlfriends, and boyfriends, and hobbies, and books you like to read, and TV shows you like to watch. It's about taking long bubble baths, or listening to a CD all by yourself, or painting your toenails while you watch your favorite soap all by yourself. It's about lots of different things to lots of different people but it is NEVER about being solely able to survive when That One Person is in the room with you.
Really, please find yourself again. You sound like you've become a freckle on this guy's body, and that is really really not good for you. Being like that is something that most girls and women would try to avoid like the plague ... you're a PERSON.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com