My husband knows I'm bisexual, and that I have had experiences with women in the past

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I am 31, happily married for nearly 3 years. Ever since I started working at my new job, I have noticed a strong attraction to another woman I work with, who is also married. We've gotten to know each other better in the past several weeks, and lately I have begun to think it's possible she might be interested in me too. I find myself thinking about her a lot, and at the same time feeling frustrated because even if she is interested, w'ere both married, AND we work together. I feel like the only right thing to so is get over this crush and fast, but I don't know how. I need help and there's absolutely no one I can trust with such personal information. My husband knows I'm bisexual, and that I have had experiences with women in the past, but I don't think he would feel comfortable hearing about this. Please help me out with this. It's making me crazy!

Please don't print my email address with the question, I would die if anyone recognized it. Thanks! Advice
We don't print email addresses with answers.

You need to decide to stop thinking about this other woman. You're asking me to advise you on how to stop thinking about her.

Unfortunately, there is to easy answer to the question... otherwise you would have already thought of it.

One thing is to imagine that the other woman has no sexual interest in you and is just compatible. Imagine her surprise if she found out what you are thinking.

Another thing to try is confiding in your husband and asking for his help. Surely he doesn't think you magically lost your bisexuality when you met him. It should come as no surprise to find you in this situation. Talking things out with him may be helpful.

Finally, there is the option of seeing a therapist who could help you work your way through this situation.

I hope something helps!!
Good luck,

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