but when we are on the phone sometimes he doesn't listen to me
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
me adn my boyfirend started going out about a week ago but weve went out 2 other times and it lasted a long time weve been dating on and off for two years and he has told me i am the one for him and that he loves me and everything but when we on the phone sometimes he doesnt listen to me and he never calls me back when he says he will and the second time we went out we broke up because we never sae each other but we only live about 2 blocks away and now we never see each other or talk but i really want it to work this time because i love him and i feel lost without him but i really dont know how to make it work if hes not going to try to make it work too
He may be too immature to try to make it work from his end.
He says he loves you, so he should be willing to hear what he needs to do to prove it. He needs to listen to you on the phone, he needs to call you back when he says he will, and he needs to hang out with you more.
Tell him these things in a gentle, non-aggressive voice and don't think he will learn the first time you tell him. Keep reminding him--use humor if you can. Like if he doesn't call for three times tell him "Strike Three!"
You will be doing him a favor too... good dating manners are a very important part of everyone's toolkit of life. He should thank you for giving him the advice.
-- from George
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