I feel like maybe I should just let go, this is hurting too much.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I know you've heard my story, this is another update.
Recently I just feel like I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like maybe I should just let go, this is hurting too much. I want to be with her so badly but the mixed signals are just tearing me apart.
The other night we hung out together again. It was fun and all, and like all times I'm just still so attracted to her. That night she drove me home and we talked a little bit. I told her I just didn't know if I could be the friend she wanted, that it was hurting me so much because I'm always going to be in love with her. She told me to just give it time and the love will fade. But I know love doesn't fade, it just changes form.
I told her I want to go on and live my life but that I'd still wait for her, but I can't wait forever. She just kind of sat there, contemplating things for a long while, as if she was thinking of what the future would bring. She told me she wasn't sure what it was that she wanted. That she doesn't want to keep me from living my life. And then she asked what she could do to help me move on.
She then proceded to hold my hand, gently carressing it as if to try and calm me. I just don't understand things. I sense she has feelings but then it feels like she wants to push me away as well. She wants me to find someone new and get over her. But I know who I want, I want her. I'm going to give her all the time she needs but...
Now I'm just confused as ever, do I let her go? Or do I try and stay with her? Right now I'm feeling like I should just stop talking to her and just let her come to me when she wants to. I know she hides from me whenever she's online other different screen names. I feel as if she wants to avoid me but doesn't have the courage to tell me so.
I'm thinking before she leaves for England, I will see her, and I almost want to tell her, "Well, I guess this is going to be the last time we see eachother" and wish her well, and give her the journal I had made for her for her trip.
What should I be doing? I want her to be happy, I want me to be happy, and I want to be with her in the end.
The thing to do is to stop agonizing over it now.
Wait until she returns and see how things are then. They may have improvedin your favor or possibly not. She is a very kind woman to continue trying to help you when she clearly wants to move on.
Perhaps when she returns she will have changed her mind. You love her enough to give her the space she needs so do that. You will feel better.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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