He's on the Rebound, how do I force him along?

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I know the guy I'm dating really cares for me, but he still has some feelings for an ex-girlfriend and is in a really confusing place right now; how can I convince him to be all mine?

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He's on the rebound. This is a REALLY REALLY bad time to try to pressure him to do ANYTHING. The whole point of being on the rebound is that you tend to make awful decisions. The last thing you want to do is be the CULPRIT when/if he makes a bad decision.

You need to be his friend. Listen to him, support him, let him take his time. When he is over her, he will know that you were there for him and patient, and then you will be the one he knows he can rely on. But love is all about two people voluntarily wanting to be with each other. If you start trying to coerce or trick or sway him right now - when he's in the middle of his rebound - that's about as anti-helpful as you can get!

-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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