i dont call her cause she may ask to hang out and i dont wanna cause it would eat me alive
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Hi there. ill keep this short and sweet. i love my friend. we arent best friends just run of the mill friends who arent real close. she has had the same boyfriend for the past 8 months and counting. i dont call her cause i know she may ask to hang out and i dont wanna cause it would eat me alive inside cause id want it to be a date. (do u think avoiding her is hurting me?) i havent seen her for a few months (actually i was avoiding her cause it hurt inside) and now that college is out for the summer i dont see her. i am totally lost i know i should tell her but she has a boyfriend and i cant. i believe in my heart i am supposed to be with this girl, she is the realization of my dream girl. i love her but she is with someone else and apparently happy with him.
You are wasting your life away pining over this girl.
Closure is what you need. Call her up and make plans to hang out. Then while you are together tell her the truth. Say you know she has a boyfriend but it is eating you up and has been for a long time. Say you would rather that she know the truth so she can understand why you act the way you do sometimes.
If she is the sweet sensitive girl that she must be, she will affirm that she has a boyfriend. Because of that she will only be able to offer friendship (which you already have).
But, at least you will have disclosed the secret that is troubling you so much.
You may cry while telling her all this but that's nothing to fear... a little crying is good for all of us if it serves a purpose.
Be brave and get it over with!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com