He don't hold my hand, he don't dare to close up to me while taking photos
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I am a 21 yr old girl in a relationship with a guy of the same age,...we knew each other and have shown liking for one another since elementary school. Since young about age 11, he has told his friend that he likes me. We were only an item when we were 19 yrs old. Through the two years of dating, we have never been able to get intimate body contact. He seems to be shy or,..? He don't hold my hand, he don't dare to close up to me while taking photos. I've ask him through messages on the matter and he said that he is shy and needed more time to train up. Although he reply to my messages on the mobile phone, he hardly initiate sms and going out on dates. It is usually me who do the initiating and dates. We had never talk on the phone before. We were both each other's first date. May i know the reason for a guy to act this way,..is it common,..? Am i too initiating,.? is it okay to initiate holding hands. Thank you for reading ,..i really need to solve this mystery that last for two years.
He has a real problem.
You need to get the to bottom of it. Tell him that your relationship is VERY abnormal and you want it to change. Set a deadline for improvement. You are going to have to take the initiative.
Tell him you are taking the initiative and then you will have to start off holding hands with him. When you hold hands tell him you are going to do it and then do it. After a few minutes ask him if it is ok with him. Keep doing it until he feels comfortable with it. If he never gets comfortable you are going to have to dump him or go on living with no affection from him.
If holding hands goes well, then move on the kissing and lead him through the stages of love making. Who knows, once he gets the hang of it he may start initiating things himself.
-- from George
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