It was about her spending a lot of time with her girlfriends and that she placed them above me.
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Well, my girifriend(16) and i(18) have recently been in a couple of arguements. I really feel they've hurt her too. It was about her spending a lot of time out with her girlfriends and it seemed to me that she placed them above me. I spend time with my buddies, but i place her above them, and i see her whenever i can. Anyway, i confronted her about it and she got really upset and told me how much she wanted to be with me. It made me feel alot better. Week or so later shes back to hanging w/ her friends all the time, and if i want to see her i have to see her at her friends house, or when shes with her friends. I confronted her again about it and she asked what she had to do to prove how much she cares for me, and she got upset that i was asking her again. Of course, i ended up telling her that i was sorry, it was my fault for being an asshole... etc. Just yesterday the same sort of thing happened, i didnt know the whole story and i confronted her about it. I talked to her for 40 minutes over the phone before i saw her later that night. She seemed really hurt. I appologised for not understanding the situation, but i could tell she was truly hurt on the inside. I havent been in this situation before, and i dont really know how to fix it. I dont think the appology will do it this time. I really want to make it up to her, i just dont know how.
You two need to come to a compromise.
You two need time together alone. Start with that and see what you can come up with. Before starting the conversation, decide for yourself what is a reasonable amount of time to be physically together alone. Ask her what her opinion is.
If your amounts are close together, then just work to make it happen. If you are far apart, you will need to compromise.
You can apologize again, but the main thing is to come to an understanding about how much time to spend together.
Hope this works out for you!
-- from George
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