is jealous of me having a girlfriend cuz she fears she may lose me as a best friend??
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
My best friend is a girl and about a month ago, i got a girlfriend.thats wen my troubles started!jus before i was going out wiv this girl, id got rly close 2 this girl hoo was my friend anyway.we went out 1 friday nite out and about and this was new 2 both of us.we left early cuz she was fed up, so i wlked her home, the long way so we cud tlk and we had a really gr8 time.it was brilliant and she was happy 2. but then wen i told her i was giving it a go wiv this girl, she suddenly seemed 2 turn depressed and unhappy all the time.she wasnt angry jus miserable. she puts it down 2 exams we r taking at the moment and problems wiv some of her friends hoo had problems and other things.but it seemed 2 appear the day afta i told her.i liked her very very very much a few months ago but wen i thought bout it, i came 2 the conclusion she didnt like me. it was a huge secret and i think that it did get 2 her, but that was wen i realised that i didnt think anything was going 2 happen.afta i realised that, we seemd 2 drift apart, and i thought it may b cuz she new i liked her.but 1 dinner time at skool, i sed 2 her we have drifted apart, n i think its cuz uve fell out wiv me, but she replyied that she thought i had fell out wiv her, and then we laffed and afta that, we grew closer than ever, which lead up 2 us becomin best friends.i still hav tremendous feelins 4 her but they seem 2 b more like sisterly feelins.i dont talk 2 her bout my girlfriend at all cuz of this.do u think she is jealous of me having a girlfriend cuz she fears she may lose me as a best friend?? or is it cuz she wants 2 b wiv me???? or is it genuinly cuz there r other problems in her life and it isnt me???? or is it sumthing else???? im totally confused!! please help me!!!
You said she was your best friend... so talk to her.
Ask her the questions you asked me. She certainly knows the answers and I certainly don't. All the things you mentioned are possibilities.
It probably won't be easy to get a completly honest answer from her because whe will be worrying about how you will react to her reply. So the best thing iss for you to be completely honest with her the same as you were to me. She will respond to your honest, open, trusting, caring conversation and will hopefully open herself to you in a similar fashion.
I hope this happens for you!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com