I don't want him going off somewhere thinking I don't care about him
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I put this in other topics because I didn't know what kind of problem this is.Mostly I don't know what my "friend" feels for me.When I met him my life changed and I've never felt that way about anyone.We broke up two years ago but said that we would be ok and that we would always be best friends, but when we did break up we acted very bitter towards each other.We broke up because I was leaving the school we were at together and for other reasons that I've mentioned to you before about intamicy that I want to save for marriage.Anyways, two years has gone by and we would have periods where we talked and it was as if nothing changed and then times where we would talk and act angry with each other.But he has always told me that he loves me and that he misses me.However he hasn't lately because I told him not to say that anymore.I feel like he wants to keep me at the top of his shelf to keep safe where no other guy can get to me.I told him I don't appreciate that, but I still love him too.Well, I told you how he was going out with some chick that he didn't like but who liked him.He is always trying to get me to notice if he is going out with someone.This girl hated me and I never did anything.He had told her that he still loved me.
Well, anyways, I'm about to graduate with my bachelor's and I came back home for the summer where I'm working at a grocery store not far from the school we went to together.I was working one day and someone from behind me grabed me and it was him.We just stood there hugging and talking and asking what we had been doing.We were telling each other about big news going on in our lives and I mentioned that my sister was getting married but I guess I mumbled and it sounded like "i'm getting married".He looked at me like I had slapped him in the face and then I said "no my sister" and then he seemed to breath easier and smiled again.We would have talked more but this new girl is waiting in the corner looking impatient.He gave me a huge hug, called me sweety and babe and then kissed me on the cheek infront of this girl.He told me that he would write me and when I got home he wrote a huge letter talking about how his year had been.( we hadn't seen each other in about 9 months a very long time.)He told me that it was so wonderful to see me and hoped to see me soon.Well a couple of days later he came in again but the chick is following him like a shadow.I was very busy and really couldn't stop but he still came over to give me a hug, to thank me for the letter I sent him and that he would email me again soon.
The main thing I want to know, well, I'm seeing someone because he is a really nice guy and it's been a while since I've dated and I want to get back into it and I'm not going to sit and wait in a corner until my "friend" makes up his mind which I think he's doing.I've tried several times to do something new, see new people, go to new places and keep on track with my last semester of school and my family.But he still is in the very core of my heart.I wish I could make him know that without having to say it.I don't want him going off somewhere thinking I don't care about him and I want to know where I stand in his heart.So........what do you do?
You need to talk to him.
Have a long, honest, open, respectful, trusting, caring conversation with him and let him know that you still care for him. But, you do not want to be put on hold until he decides what to do. Tell him that you want to know how he feels.
After this conversation you will know better what to do and where you stand with him.
-- from George
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