I said are we more than friends, he said yes but
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have just finished travelling with large group through Africa for 7 months. I really like a guy I met on trip. AT first he showed interest (flirting etc.) then when felt too embarassed (because I like him and infront of large group) to return flirting he turned his attention to another girl was a lot more forward in her advances. While nothing happened with them romantically (although she tried) they were close. I told a girl how I felt and the guy she had hooked up with told the guy I liked that i liked him. Apparently he was happy about that and we started getting closer. I asked him one day if we were friends,he said of course, why would I ask that. I said are we more than friends, he said yes but he had a few things that he needed to fix first (I assume any ideas this other girl may have had about him). But nothing ever happened after that. While he never spent time with this girl and spent all his time with me and 2 other guys (as a group we are all very close), the relationship never developed into anything other than friendship. I think the other 2 guys were quite keen on me. I guess because he didn't do anything I started calling them all my 'brothers'. As a close group we have promised to always keep in touch and to go to each others weddings. When the time came to say goobye at airport (he drove a few hours to come and say goodbye) we were all very upset. We keep in touch, he says he misses me and that we have to catch up some time in the future... Does he like me romantically or as a sister/friend? I know you can't answer this really but any advice would be welcome.
My advice is to maintain contact with him.
Then try to become better friends and more than friends. From what you have said, there's a good likelihood that he wants to be more than friends. But, that is just guesswork.
It is up to you to pursue the relationship and the way to do that is by close communication. Have long, meaningful, trusting, caring conversations with him and eventually you will discover how he feels about you. Or, if you want to, tell him you have developed feelings for him and wonder how he feels about it.
My best wishes are with you!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com