He and I were like Romeo and Juliet (we really were, I mean we truly truly loved eachother)
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hello, ahh ok this is my like 5th time writing. But things keep changing.
Okay well I asked about giving my ex the letter I wrote. The thing is, my friend told me something about him wanting to see another girl in his online journal thing. So I went there and he had written that he is dissapointed because he really liked this one girl and wanted to get to know her better, but she is probably getting back with her ex. He wrote that he wants her to see how nice of a guy he is and how good he'll treat her. He also wrote about how everyone hes interested in seems to be taken.
I am absolutely devastated. He told me he didnt want to date anyone, the way he was acting around me and the things he said completely left me with no doubt about that. But now I read this, and I cant even believe it. We were together for almost 3 years, everyone I know cant believe this. Everyones just as confused as me, saying that him and I were like Romeo and Juliet (we really were, I mean we truly truly loved eachother)....I dont understand how after a month he could just have moved on completely from that....
We have never sat down and talked about why we broke up. I still dont even know completely why he doesnt want to be with me. So I dont know if I should still go through with the letter. I was jealous and stuff, and didnt give him the freedom he wanted. He keeps saying he likes being free and single...but he wants this new girl?? I want to show him that I can change how I was, that things dont have to be the way they were, that he can be with me and still experience being young. I thought he still had feelings for me, was sure he had to because after 3 years of what we had you dont just forget about someone in a month...and was hoping to hit those feelings with my letter...but now I dont know.
I dont know what to do. It "seems" like hes still interested...but hes interested in this other girl, but he has to have feelings for me still right??
He hasn't been honest with you.
It might be a good idea to have a talk with him and find out why he broke up. He owes you at least that much. It sounds like he wants the freedom to pursue other girls and get more experience.
He will always have feelings for you... for the rest of his life. Even if you never see each other. Nobody can forget the first partners they found in their lives. But that doesn't mean he is going to get back together with you.
You should try to get him back because that is very important to you. Once he realizes that it isn't that easy being single and free he may be interested in getting back with you.
I sure hope so!
-- from George
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