She's going to be moving to England to live for a year and wants to stay in contact with me
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Hi, I had looked through the stuff on the site and couldn't find a specific answer I have been looking for. My ex and I had been going out for about a year, we broke up because she wanted to be on her own for a while and lead an independent life. There was also another guy she liked at the time but I revealed him to be a liar that was playing her.
We decided to stay friends, but I still have deep feelings for her. She'll always talk with me whether it be phone or online. We still hang out as well just not as much. I can't tell if she secretly still has feelings for me, at times she'll tell me I'm cute or handsome. The other day when we were together I kind of lost control of my emotions and kissed her. She didn't get upset but she didn't really kiss back, she told me I shouldn't do that cause I'll just confuse myself. When I ask her if she thinks we'll get back together someday in the future she replies with "you never know".
She's going to be moving to England to live for a year and wants to stay in contact with me, and I'll be moving to California. When she comes back she has said she wants to go to school in California and that we can hang out together when she gets back from England.
I always treat her with the utmost respect and she knows I still have feelings for her, I notice when I tell her sometimes that I feel like I could be with her forever she gets a bit mushy. She tells me I feel that way because her and I just connect so well. So my question is this, what are my chances with this girl? What is the probability that she'll find someone else and forget about me? Or perhaps is there a chance that eventually she'll come around later on and want to be together with me again? Does it sound like she even has deep feelings for me or is she over me?
I've been in so many relationships before, and deep down I know she's the one. I don't want to let her get away from me but I don't want to seem pushy, what do I do!?
It sounds like you are handling the situation just fine given the circumstances.
You and she have what seems to be a good, open relationship with a lot of communication. Many people who have broken up are in far worse condition than you are.
Continuing, open communication is the most important thing you can focus on. Make sure she understands how you feel and keep in contact with her while she is in England. Hopefully when she returns to California you can pick up from there.
Maybe later you could suggest a visit to England to site see and to see her.
I sincerely hope that things turn out the way you hope!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com